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Dovid Campbell's avatar

I find Dr. Gray's views to be a welcome counterbalance to the important work of Haidt and others, but the line of argument in this particular article strikes me as reductive and incomplete. "We've seen this all before" arguments may inject some valuable context into a heated debate, but they also risk obscuring Black Swan events and the dangers they carry. The movies of the early 20th century did not come home with you in your pocket, nor did they optimize themselves for addictive behavior. Movie producers were indeed interested in selling tickets, but they also had to cater to a relatively broad audience, and many were interested in producing a work of art with enduring social relevance. Early comic books often conveyed moral values and served as a stepping stone to more serious reading (this was certainly the case for me). Even video games offer some benefits in problem-solving and coordination, as others have noted.

I fail to find any of these redeeming benefits in TikTok, and I see plenty of harm. If the goal of modern psychologists is to debate which social media meets the technical definition of addictive behavior, or whether the connection between body dysmorphia and these platforms is statistically significant, I would argue that this matters little to parents who *see* their children suffering from these technologies. Perhaps one of the most valuable qualities of the parent-child relationship is the parent's ability to intuitively and holistically monitor their child's well-being. A teenager might self-report that their increasing anxiety is due to school pressures, not their phone, but a parent will notice how much more resiliently and enthusiastically their child navigated life before they began scrolling for six hours a day.

Dr. Gray has argued cogently for a less intensive approach to parenting and a greater degree of self-determination for our children. I resonate with these ideals strongly, but they presuppose a world in which children have the opportunity to explore, play, and at least momentarily step away from the societal judgments and rampant consumerism that we have erected around them. I believe that social media robs them of this opporunity in a way that no other technology ever has. It is not more of the same.

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Beck Delahoy's avatar

I think what's missing from this point is that there are some parents (like myself) who did have smartphones and social media in their teenage years and don't want that for their kids. We're not just saying it because we're scared of this new technology, we're saying it because we know how destructive this technology can be.

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