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Samantha's avatar

Social media today has evolved rapidly into something that one could hardly consider "social." Rather than actually communicating with friends, most teenagers are simply "following" influencers and consuming content. As pointed out in the decline of mental health concerns in the 1990s-2010s, the way that my generation (millennials) used the internet was almost always to actually connect with our peers. There wasn't any way to endlessly scroll content fed to you through an algorithm. Of course, there were still predators and downsides then too. But as far as using most social media to actually be social, I see this less and less with teenagers today (in my observations as a high school counselor over the past 10 years). The exception might be an example like Snapchat, which still poses its own safety problems.

I've been searching far and wide for a simple cell phone with a slide out keyboard for my 12-year-old so that he can be in touch with friends through calls and texts, but without any hazards of the internet. It is impossible to find. Flip phones are still out there, but texting on a flip phone is super annoying as I'm sure many of us remember! Having a simple phone would allow my child freedom to talk to friends and make plans (without me having to facilitate meetups for him). There are kid-friendly smart phones that I am aware of, but with price and extra bells and whistles we aren't interested in right now.

Instead of outright smartphone bans, I really wish that parents and schools would demand going back to these simpler phones for tweens and teenagers. It would eliminate so many of the distraction and danger concerns but still allow kids to connect with each other.

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Charity Chatterson's avatar

All the same “fear” mongering happened throughout the years over anything new. The problem is we the adults don’t know how to regulate ourselves so we assume child won’t be able to. If we as adults/educators were better role models and more creative in our teachings children would see how technology and other things we deem inappropriate for children (play fighting/gun play) can have a great impact on their lives. How the right tools can benefit. We don’t allow our children to be children make mistakes and learn from them we are constantly protecting them all the while putting them in danger. Phones have a place we need to educate ourselves and our children how to use them affectively. Adults need to lead by example.

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